No. Really. HOW are you doing?
We heard the question correctly, muttered with a general shrug of the shoulders, “I’m ok. I guess.” But then the question comes again with stronger inference on a question not satisfied with the answer. “No. Really. I’m ok.” But your salesmanship does not come across very well. The concerned look remains. “REALLY. HOW ARE YOU DOING?”
Then you either spill your guts, or start selling your status to the questioner that all is ok. Or. You give pause and begin to wonder if you can trust your situation with the persistent inquiry.
To me. That’s really the question. Can I trust you with my status? Is there anything you can do to help? Or will I simply be wasting my time confiding in you… We all know there are some who cannot maintain their confidence. In a heartbeat your story become the headlines, bylines and gossip fodder.
And this is the real reason why some people simply disappear. They do not want the questions so they ride off into the sunset. Probably to never be heard from again.
Through the years I’ve learned that it does no good to share too much with too many people! Now. I’m an open book on a lot of fronts, but there are things that I never share. I asked a pastor about 25 years ago how much he shares with his bride. We had just gone through some negative experiences and I really needed the insight.
“Look at her. She’s leading that choir practice with no thought of anything wrong with anybody. That’s the way I want her to remain. This is not her battle, nor her load. It’s mine. I’ll carry it and protect her all the way!”
Some of you many know who I’m talking about, and if you know me well you may even know the event I’m remembering. In fact, it’s from this that I learned there are things that I will never share with others. It does no one any good. And I’m strong enough to carry the load of the event.
Solomon shares a wise thought:
- Do not curse the king, even in your thought; Do not curse the rich, even in your bedroom; For a bird of the air may carry your voice, And a bird in flight may tell the matter. (Ecclesiastes 10:20 NKJV)
- Don’t bad-mouth your leaders, not even under your breath, And don’t abuse your betters, even in the privacy of your home. Loose talk has a way of getting picked up and spread around. Little birds drop the crumbs of your gossip far and wide. (Ecclesiastes 10:20 MSG)
Maintain your confidence about the situations around you. A lesson learned, and still we need to learn it every day! Remember. There is someone who removes the load from you and he never get too tired, nor is your load too heavy.
“I removed his shoulder from the burden; His hands were freed from the baskets. You called in trouble, and I delivered you; I answered you in the secret place of thunder; I tested you at the waters of Meribah. Selah (Psalms 81:6-7 NKJV)
You never have to carry the burden alone. Let him take it from you. It’s okay. You can trust Him!